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#16 imperfect parent

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Posted 09 April 2016 - 04:51 PM

I'm still here, and once again looking for a school placement for DS 1. DD is settled at uni, and enjoying her course while DS2 has done well in school and is now doing a college course supported by his school. Our LA is doing its best to scupper this, but we have managed to prevent them succeeding so far.

I've been fairly quiet on here recently partly because so much is happening, but also because things change so quickly.
I'm still here, and once again looking for a school placement for DS 1. DD is settled at uni, and enjoying her course while DS2 has done well in school and is now doing a college course supported by his school. Our LA is doing its best to scupper this, but we have managed to prevent them succeeding so far.

I've been fairly quiet on here recently partly because so much is happening, but also because things change so quickly.

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Posted 09 April 2016 - 07:54 PM

Hello again ☺

I'm not a very frequent poster, I find it hard to be honest, especially when things are tough.

Dd is now in special high school, still hugely anxious and finding preteen life quite difficult. Ds is doing really well at school but is very quirky & for the first time is finding friendships difficult.

After years on my own I met a wonderful man 18 months ago (who may join here), and things are going really well.

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Posted 09 April 2016 - 09:34 PM

I found this site a year and a half ago (I wish I had found it much sooner, everyone has been so helpful and supportive).


Ds1 is 14, Aspergers, and has just been moved to a residential special school. It's a big change but we think a very positive one. Ds 2 is NT, and dd (primary) is waiting for dx.

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Posted 10 April 2016 - 06:40 PM

Hi there.


I've been a member here since my son was 5 years old so that's 7 years. Wouldn't even consider looking elsewhere as I believe there is nothing else quite like this place.


I've had quite a difficult year. We had to fight extremely hard to get LE into a specialist independent school which as I'm sure many of you know is very stressful. Anyway we were successful but a few weeks after receiving the good news from the LEA I I got very ill resulting in me having a total abdominal hysterectomy.


I completely underestimated the operation and recovering and I have found it very difficult as I also immediately went into full blown menopause with hot flushes and all that palaver.


We had a seaside holiday booked some weeks afterwards and I was 'just' recovered enough and was really looking forward to it. We got to the hotel room, I sat on the bed and my mobile phone rang. It was my brother to tell me our sister had just died. She died two weeks after her 60th birthday :(


Then had a couple of pets pass away in close succession and I was beginning to wonder what on earth was going to happen next. Well now I've just been diagnosed with severe osteoarthritis which by all accounts I should have a knee replacement but I'm seeing a specialist about that as I'm only 53 so not sure what will be suggested.


I am trying to keep positive and happy but it is difficult. The menopause is still bothering me as is recovering from the op and my sister passing away. I am very happy though that LE is in such a fantastic school.

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Posted 10 April 2016 - 07:34 PM

I've been around for a couple of years from when my youngest was first thought to have autism.


He is now 5 has ASD GDD and Low tone. He's doing really well at a special school still non verbal but will exchange the odd pec for food or drinks and can sign please if he really wants something.


I have 2 daughters 9& nearly 11. 9 year old has just been diagnosed with ASD she has some generalised learning difficulties but getting an EHCP is going to be a battle but one I think I'm going to have to fight for the right secondary placement for her.


My eldest is yr6 hitting puberty SATS and transitions to secondary school in style. She is dyslexic but without a formal diagnosis as apparently they don't diagnose round here another battle to fight. She has many asd traits and we're considering whether she'd benefit from a diagnosis or not.

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Posted 11 April 2016 - 03:37 PM


I have just posted an update on the end of another thread before I saw this one! Hi everyone, good to read how you're all doing xx

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Posted 24 April 2016 - 08:52 AM

Hello again everyone. I've been a member on here for nine years. My DS is nearly 19 and is in a Special School.


I don't post here much but I read often.

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Posted 02 May 2016 - 11:16 PM

Hi everyone, I've been around a good few years now but have been a Facebooker for far too long. DS is coming up for 18 and we are trying to get him a care package in place ready for University, he has an unconditional offer, but very lacking in life skills.

DD started secondary School this year, and has amazed us all so far on how well she has done, but everyday is a challenge for her, and we are in the process of evidence gathering for her EHCP application.

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Posted 07 May 2016 - 02:18 PM

Think ASD friendly is like an old comfort blanket. 


I am PAC, been a member for a few years, my middle child who brought me here has just turned 11. Has moved to a new Autism specific school, still a bugger but we love him for how he is. Has given us many a cause to go bald and grey. Since joining all my other children have been dx with HFA. So trying to juggle it all has had its ups and downs.


Had a run in with social services, which was like being hit with a 10 ton truck, but all calm at the moment. So dusting off and picked ourself back up.

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Posted 07 May 2016 - 04:23 PM

*Waves hello* I'm Cavegirl been a member for a very long time but haven't posted in ages. Our ds is now 17 at 6th form doing A levels. Can't be leave how far he's come but there are always challenges. 🙂

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Posted 09 May 2016 - 07:34 PM

Hi, mimbles here. Haven't been on here for quite a while but thinking of dropping Facebook and hanging out here more. Have 13 year old with asd and dyslexia, and a 10 year old with dyslexia and some nods to autism, applied for a statutory assessment in January, just heard its a no, so planning an appeal with the aid of the local parent partnership. Been divorced around 9 years and its hard going doing this stuff on your own, but there are some diamond moments in amongst it all.

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Posted 09 May 2016 - 08:10 PM

The really lovely (and scary) thing is that I remember so many of these children as real tinies. Look at how they're growing!


I feel old ;)

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Posted 15 May 2016 - 08:07 PM

The scary thing for me is how little I remember.

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Posted 02 September 2016 - 10:30 AM

Hi, been more on Facebook for advice but I have now got rid of my account....wasn't doing me any good with family not understanding about my son or my choices.


My ASD  son is now 15 just about to start year 11. My eldest is 20 (hitting his head against a brick wall with his GP in regards to being referred for a possible diagnosis) and my nearly 18 year old (has social anxieties...he came out with it about a year ago.... but doesn't want a formal diagnosis/help).


The last year has been a roller coaster with my youngest...will elaborate at a later date...need some advice. Just trying to figure a lot of stuff in my own head first.


Got married back in April and gained a 11 year old stepson ASD & a 13 year old stepdaughter NT..its great fun every other weekend when we have all of them together.

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Posted 05 September 2016 - 11:02 AM

Hi im raregold

i havent been on for ages,  due to having a hard time or just plain forgetting,

I'm a single parent to 3 children with sn, well 2 are now adults,  my eldest has just been diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum, as well as ocd, has aggressive tendencies, and talks for England, he works in a voluntary capacity and thoroughly enjoys it,

my middle child has severe learning disability, gdd, badd, raynauds, excema, and poor mobility, he now goes to a day centre 3 days a week, and has a pa for the other 2,

my youngest has learning disability, adhd, and is still in school as they have to stay there now till 18 lol,

I work full time which in itself is a challenge as you can imagine but it keeps me sane

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